Parenting ebook + phone app · ages 18 months to 7

What to say and do when your child hits, throws dinner, or melts down in the store.

The Boundary Vault is an ebook and a phone app with 130 situation cards. Each card covers one common situation with a young child and tells you exactly what to say and what to do, in words you can use right away.

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  • 130 cards in 14 categories: hitting, dinner, bedtime, mornings, screens, siblings and more
  • Each card: what to say, what to do, and what to do if they keep going
  • Phone app: type a word like “hit” or “cart” and the right card opens
  • Written for children from about 18 months to 7 years
The Boundary Vault — What to say when they hit, throw dinner, or melt down in the store, by The Boundary Mom
Ebook (PDF) + phone app · 130 cards
130
situation cards
14
categories of daily life
2
formats: ebook + phone app
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Sound familiar?

Most parents know what they want.
They do not have the words when it happens.

When your child throws the plate or hits you, you have about ten seconds to respond. Most parents do not have a ready answer for those ten seconds, so they explain, then warn, then yell, then give in.

The Boundary Vault gives you a ready answer for each of these moments: one sentence to say and one thing to do.

  • 01

    “I repeat the rule three times and nothing changes.”

  • 02

    “I explain, then I warn, then I count to three, then I yell.”

  • 03

    “I say no. After the fifteenth please, I give in.”

  • 04

    “I cook a second dinner almost every night.”

  • 05

    “In the store I give in because people are watching.”

  • 06

    “I know how I want to parent. I do not know what to say when it actually happens.”

Each of these situations has its own card in The Boundary Vault.

How every card works

Say the rule once. Then follow through.

Every card uses the same approach. You say the rule one time, in plain words. Then you do what you said: you take the cup away, put the child down, or leave the store. You do not repeat yourself, warn, count to three, or negotiate.

The follow-through is always something you do yourself, so it does not depend on your child agreeing or calming down first. That is why it works on a bad night.

The Boundary Mom's Rule

You do not need to change how you parent in general. You need to know what to say and do in these specific moments. The cards give you that.

1

Say the rule once, in plain words. If you can, say it before the situation starts.

2

Stop talking. Do not explain, warn, or repeat the rule.

3

Follow through. Take the thing away, put the child down, or leave the place.

4

Say one sentence about what happened and what changed.

5

Do not give the thing back in that moment, even if they cry.

Example: food thrown on the floor

Before dinner you say: “Food stays in the cup. If it goes on the floor, the cup is gone.” They throw it. You take the cup and say: “You put the food on the floor. The cup is gone. We will try again later.”

Then you stop talking. The cup does not come back during this meal, even if they cry.

What the cards never ask you to do

Warn or threaten. Count to three. Give the thing back to “try again.” Explain the rule while they are crying. Bribe. Shout, shame, or hit.

The phone app

Search a word. Get the card.

The phone app has all 130 cards. You type a word like “hit,” “cart,” or “whining,” or tap one of nine category buttons, and the matching card opens. The first screen shows the situation, what to say, and what to do. Tap once more for what not to say, what to do if they keep going, and the rule in one line.

Try it here. Eight of the 130 cards are included in this preview.

  • Opens in your phone browser from a link. No app store download, no password.
  • Search by everyday words: hit, cart, shoes, bedtime.
  • Nine category buttons: Hit, Dinner, Store, Car, After no, Bedtime, Morning, Siblings, Screens.
  • Save the cards you use most. They stay on your phone.
Get the full appPreview: 8 of 130 cards. You get the full app link right after checkout.
The Boundary Vault
Preview
Common situations
What’s inside

130 cards. Each one has the same six parts.

A card covers one situation. Here is card 13, exactly as it appears in the book and in the app.

Sample card
Card 13Category: Dinner and food

Food on the floor

The moment

The cup tips. Spaghetti on the tile. Eyes on you, waiting to see if it comes back.

Say this
Before the cup

“Food stays in the cup. If it goes on the floor, the cup is gone.”

After the throw

“You put the food on the floor. The cup is gone. We will try again later.”

Do this

Take the cup. Or close the meal. Do not put food back on the tray.

Do not say
  • Do not throw that (and leave the cup in their hands).
  • Why would you do that.
  • One more bite.
If they push

The cry is the test. The cup stays gone.

Later is the next snack or tomorrow, not 6:19.

The Boundary Mom's Rule

First throw ends the cup. Or the meal.

The 14 categories
  • Hitting and hurting11 cards
  • Dinner and food12 cards
  • Out of the house16 cards
  • After no11 cards
  • Screens7 cards
  • Bedtime and sleep7 cards
  • Mornings and getting out the door8 cards
  • Siblings8 cards
  • Toys, mess and the house10 cards
  • Listening and the daily no10 cards
  • Body and care8 cards
  • Two parents and other adults7 cards
  • You9 cards
  • The meltdown itself6 cards
Also in the ebook
  • A short explanation under each card of why the approach works
  • One chapter that explains the method
  • How to start: pick five cards for the first week
  • What to do when a card is not working
  • The rules, on a few pages — a recap chapter at the end of the ebook
  • When to talk to a doctor instead of using a card
Two formats, one purchase

An ebook to read, and a phone app to use in the moment.

Both contain the same 130 cards with the same words.

The Boundary Vault — What to say when they hit, throw dinner, or melt down in the store, by The Boundary Mom
The ebook (PDF)

Read the cards and the reasons behind them.

  • All 130 cards in 14 categories
  • A short explanation under each card of why it works
  • Extra chapters: the method, the first week, when a card is not working, when to see a doctor
  • Print it, or screenshot any card and send it to your partner or babysitter
The phone app

Find the right card in seconds.

  • Opens in your phone browser from a link. No download, no password.
  • A search box and nine category buttons
  • Shows what to say and what to do first. Tap for the rest.
  • Save your favourite cards

You pay once and get both. The links arrive by email right after checkout.

Parents using the cards

What parents say after the first week.

I searched “cart” in the parking lot, said the sentence once, and we left without the milk. The next trip she got in the cart.
— Mariana R. — mom of 2 (ages 3 + 6)
Food on the floor happened every night. I took the cup and stopped talking. By the fourth dinner he stopped throwing it.
— Jordan P. — single mom, kid age 4
I sent my husband the card about two parents saying the same thing. Now we both say the same thing.
— Hannah K. — mom of toddler twins
I have three parenting books. This is the first one that tells me exactly what to say.
— Priya S. — mom of 1 (age 5)
Honest check

Is this for you?

Better to know now.

This is for you if…

  • Your child is between about 18 months and 7 years.
  • You end up repeating yourself, warning, and then yelling or giving in.
  • You want exact words to say and exact steps to take, not a parenting philosophy.
  • You want your partner, grandparents, or babysitter to handle these moments the same way you do.

This isn’t for you if…

  • You need help with behavior that worries you, or you are looking for a diagnosis or therapy. This is general parenting advice. The book includes a section on when to see a professional instead.
  • You want a long course with weekly lessons and progress tracking. This is a reference you open when you need it.
  • You want to be told you are already doing everything right.
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  • The ebook (PDF): 130 cards in 14 categories
  • The phone app: a link that works on any phone, no download
  • All future updates, free
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30-day money-back guarantee

Use the cards for 30 days. If they do not help, email me and I refund the full price. You keep the book.

Quick value math
  • Ebook (130 cards)$47
  • Phone app$29
  • Future updates$—
  • Today, all together$27

About the price of one takeout dinner.

FAQ

Common questions.

Yes. The cards are written for children from about 18 months to 7 years. The ebook has a section called The method by age that explains how to use the same cards at each stage. With a toddler you use the shortest version of the sentence and do the follow-through yourself, for example lifting them down. From three to five the cards work as written. From five to seven you rely more on the words and less on moving the child.
Ready?

Know what to say
the next time it happens.

The Boundary Vault gives you 130 ready answers for the most common hard moments with young children. Read the book tonight, or open the app the next time your child throws the plate.

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